It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to know that everyone at some point in their life has felt – or will feel – unworthy, not good enough, and you know what? It’s normal. We all think less of ourselves than we should, let’s face it, nobody’s perfect, and if you believe you are, you’re usually considered full of yourself. But does that mean we should think we are not good enough? Why should it be normal to feel self doubt?
Days when you feel crappy are inevitable, I’m sorry to be the one to tell you. You could have the best life in the world and there will still be days when you just want to stay in bed and watch friends all day with a big tub of full fat chocolate ice cream. Usually having a sob into my delicious treat while watching Ross and Rachel get back together is enough to get me over my blues. Well, that and a long bubble bath.
Unfortunately, in this day and age, the world works in such a way that it’s kind of impossible to avoid the things that can trigger your self doubt, with magazines, social media, and television full of unrealistic images of life, we expect ours to be just as perfect as that, but it’s all a lie. That is not perfection. You can have the best life in the world and you do not have to be a fitness model, a beauty queen, have a 1st Class degree, own a 62 bedroom house or a flash car. As long as you are happy, deep down inside, within yourself, for yourself, with yourself, then you my friend are all set. Because that is ALL you need, sure oxygen, shelter and food are important but as long as you are happy to be you, then why worry about everyone else?
An important rule I recently discovered that has helped me heaps lately is the “can I change it” rule.
If you’re upset that you didn’t get that job you had your heart set on, can you change it? No, keep searching and you will find a better one with better pay or that’s closer to home and you will enjoy it a million times more. Everything happens for a reason.
If you can’t afford that really nice dress that you want on ASOS, can you change it? Stop complaining, Wait until payday, it’ll probably be cheaper by then too 😉
If you don’t feel loved or appreciated by your partner or friends, can you change it? YES, throw them out and find someone who deserves your amazing love and friendship!
If you didn’t get those grades you wanted, can you change it? No! Don’t beat yourself up, there is ALWAYS another option, Apprenticeship, work experience, resits, foundation courses, access to HE, trust me, if you want something, you will find a way!
If you’re not happy with the way you look, can you change it? Get a makeover, change your hairstyle, go shopping, hit the gym. You would be surprised how much prettier I feel after a pamper, clean smooth skin, freshly painted nails, it’s bliss!
I have plenty more examples in my head but I feel this post is already getting pretty long, regardless, you get the jist. If anything is getting you down, right now, ask yourself if you can change it, can you work harder? Can you remove the problem? Can you change yourself, your attitude, your focus?
If it can be changed, then why waste time getting upset about it? Make that change! If It can’t be changed, will being upset about it make a difference? No, accept it and move on to better things.
I’m going to stop blabbing on in this post now and bring it to an end before it turns into a book. But I will leave you with this;
Just remember to love yourself, truly, the love that you have for yourself is the most important thing. I’ve said this before, and I will say it again many many many times: LIFE IS JUST TOO…. DAMN….. SHORT! Smile, laugh, live, love, be happy, don’t let anyone tell you or make you feel like you are not enough, because oh my gosh you are. And you will always be! People who think otherwise should have gone to specsavers (cheesy exit).
Love Kays X